Yesterday Is Gone, Embrace Today’s Beauty

Yesterday Is Gone, Embrace Today’s Beauty

Courage To Change – August 18, 2020

Like this rose on the railway track, the horror of a moment is but a fleeting point in time. We can be all consumed by its fragrance, it’s perfect obsession, but to dwell there is not living. Living, one day, one hour, one moment at a time means that the moment becomes the past, and we grow into the future. To treasure that past, sorrows or joys, to cling to it, robs you of the moment’s that you are living in now.

Quick and Simple Disclaimer: The readings in this post are literally taken wholesale out of the book entitled Courage to Change. You can find it at Amazon, Here. The portion entitled Alleged Insight, well that mess is all me.

If you’re an introvert, go buy the book, if you’re a broke introvert, the text from many good books can be found HERE , if you’re in dire straits however, go find an Al-Anon Meeting, it saved me. *None of these links are affiliate links,


So onward to Today’s Reading

Some of us had a long list of grievances against the alcoholic, especially while the drinking was still active. The worse possible thing we can do is to remember them, dwell on them, and polish up our halos of martyrdom. The very best we can do is to erase them from memory, so each new day becomes an opportunity to make things better.

It is not my assignment to keep an inventory of my spouse’s faults and misbehavior. My task is to watch for my own and root them out, so that what I say and do will help make things better for me and for my family.

Today’s reminder

Storing up grievances is more than a waste of time; it’s a waste of life that could be lived to greater satisfaction. If I keep a record of oppression and indignities, I am restoring them to painful reality.

I’ve found they’re surprisingly easy to forget, once I start using the A-Anon program each day.

“The horror of that moment,” the King said,

“I shall never, never forget.”

“You will, thought,” said the Queen, “if you don’t make a memorandum of it.”

–(Lewis Carroll: Through the Looking Glass)

Alleged Insight:

So much to say, so little coherence. I am bad for holding onto the hurts, of waiting for others to realize the depth of the damage they caused, and expecting them to make amends because they’re good people who want me to be happy. How narcissistic is that of me?

There’s a meme that I need to go find… Ah, here it is…

Can I even begin to explain how hard it is to do this, especially for in introverted empathetic over-thinker?

I think, without dragging anymore maudlin introspection and self-pity into this, that I need to go do some work on me in this regard.

So without further ado, I am off to go and do some fearless moral inventory type work. I leave you with God’s blessing and all my best wishes.

Cheers.

Duke.


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